This week was an important week for hundreds of thousands of students across the country. On Thursday many of them got their university results which would determine whether they’d get into university. It’s a lot to deal with in itself. Some students collecting their results may be going into other things – apprenticeships, work or into further study at college.
And some may want to go to university but aren’t ready.
That was me back in 2012 when I got my A Level results. I knew I wasn’t ready.
There were many reasons for this: confidence, pressure and my current life situation. For you reading this you probably have your reasons too – and those reasons are justifiable because they’re how you feel right now. It’s a hard thing to deal with though, isn’t it? As soon as you reach 17 you’ve got that BIG decision to make – to go or not to go, that is the question. For some it’s difficult; other’s just know.
I knew – at least I thought I did.
There’s a lot of pressure to take the traditional route – post 16 education and then university. Simple. It’s the easy road. The road travelled by most so things are already paved out – it’s expected that you’ll go this way.
But looking around it’s not the road you want – you want to take a road less travelled and find your way back to the journey of going to university at a later stage. But it’s hard because you feel different as most of your friends may be heading of to university – you feel left behind?
How do you deal with all of these feelings? Guilt, resentment, anger, doubt…and so much more.
Firstly you have to accept that you feel this way. Many other people have gone to university later in life – and as my university saying goes – you still can go to university at any age and at any time. There are many people at university who aren’t fresh out of school or college. There’s people in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and probably even 60s. It’s not too late.
Remember there’s no rush!
Secondly you have to focus on yourself. It’s your life. You do what you want in it. You have to think about yourself. I may be hard to do but you can do it – and you will feel better for it too. You’re going in a new direction too and on a new journey just like the people going to university. You may be starting work, taking a gap year or doing further study before you go to university. Whatever you choose to do, it’s what you want – not what others want you to do.
If you don’t feel prepared for university maybe get some advice. Is it because you don’t know what you want to do as a career or that you think you don’t have enough experience? Whatever it is, it’s normal to feel like that – getting advice can help you so that when you come to apply to university you’ll feel more able and ready. Also once you’re at university things change anyway.
Also some people that are heading to university may drop out because they find they aren’t as ready as they thought they were – and hey that’s okay too!
It may not fit right now, but it might in the future – and if you never feel prepared for university then that’s fine – no-one is ever fully prepared either so you may want to decide to jump in later or decide to hang back and find a different route into getting where you want to be.
There are other ways to be successful in this world after all!
Just remember as always that it’s okay – it’s your life, live it how you want and not by others.